For years, I had a “type.”

Tall. Confident. Fit. The kind of man who walked into a room and owned it.

And I met and had relationships with some incredible people. Truly. But deep down, something always felt… just a little off.

I’d find myself wondering – why doesn’t this feel quite right?

Then, one day, I started to ponder:

What if the disconnect wasn’t about them but about me?

That question cracked everything open.

Where was I not honoring my own truth?
Where was I abandoning myself in the pursuit of connection?
Where was I waiting for someone else to give me what I wasn’t giving myself?

And the big one…

Was I the kind of woman I wanted to be in a relationship with?

So, I turned inward.

I stopped searching and started becoming.
I fell in love with my own company.
I created a life that felt beautiful, full, and deeply fulfilling – on my own terms.
I became the woman I admired.

And wouldn’t you know it?

That’s when he showed up.

Not because I was looking.
Not because I needed him.

But because I had already chosen myself first. And he was simply the right addition to a life I already loved.

So, here’s my question for you:

Are you the love of your own life?

Because when you are, the right people will find you impossible to resist.

With love,

Mirror, Mirror: What We Attract

We accept the love we think we deserve.

~ Stephen Chbosky

Our relationships – whether romantic, friendly, or professional – often reflect our relationship with ourselves. The qualities we consistently encounter in others frequently mirror our own self-perceptions and values.

This week, examine your “wishlist” for the people in your life. Instead of focusing solely on what you seek in others, consider whether those same qualities are present in your own actions and mindset. 

When we embody the traits we value – confidence, authenticity, compassion, or ambition – we naturally attract connections that align with our true selves.

Carbon 38 Colorblock Leggings

When I started focusing on becoming my “own type,” taking care of my health became a top priority – one that’s now a non-negotiable in my life. These Carbon 38 Colorblock Leggings have quickly become my go-to piece for workouts and days I want to stay in something super-comfy.

I love how they look good while feeling absolutely amazing. The high waist stays put during my Pilates class, and the split hem at the ankle adds a stylish touch. They remind me that simple daily choices  – like moving my body and wearing things that make me feel good – are part of loving myself first.

My Love Story: The Self-Image Shifts That Led to My Engagement

I get asked about my relationship journey more than almost any other topic, so this week, I’m sharing the real story behind my relationship with my man.

You’ll hear about my moment of truth: realizing I wasn’t embodying the qualities I sought in someone else. Plus, I’ll share the practical changes that transformed both my self-image and, ultimately, my love life.