I was getting dressed the other day, and I reached for a black dress I’ve had for years. It’s the kind of dress that’s comfortable, familiar, and safe.

I put it on and caught my reflection. It didn’t fit anymore – not my body, but my life. 

The woman I’m becoming doesn’t wear that dress.

So I took it off. No drama, no guilt. Just: This isn’t my style anymore.

And then it hit me: Why don’t we do this with our thoughts?

We walk around wearing the same thoughts we’ve had for decades.

“I need to work harder to be worthy.”

“I can’t rest until everything is perfect.”

“If I slow down, I’ll fall behind.”

These thoughts feel comfortable because we’ve worn them so long.

But, comfortable doesn’t always mean they fit.

Here’s a thought I realized I’ve been dragging around for years: “If I care too much about style and beauty, people will think I’m superficial.”

This belief is rooted in an assumption that spiritual growth should transcend aesthetics. That if I’m truly evolved, I shouldn’t care about the details – the way light falls in a room, the drape of fabric, the belt that makes the outfit.

But that thought doesn’t fit who I truly am. Beauty is one of my core values.

I believe that beauty is essential to a well-lived life.

That tending to how things look and feel isn’t vanity – it’s the ingredient to living fully. It’s saying: “This life, this moment, this body all deserve to be respected.”

When I “wear” that thought, I attract people who align with this truth and naturally repel those who don’t. 

I get to live authentically with people who get it – rather than performing for people who are misaligned. And that is always way more fun.

Because here’s the truth: We get to shop for our thoughts just like we shop for clothes. Try them on, see how they feel, check if they flatter the life we’re creating. 

If they don’t? Return them and choose something that fits.

Do you want a well-styled mind? It may be time to try on something new.

With love & a little sparkle,

My thoughts are a wardrobe I get to curate.

Some are classics worth keeping. Others? Outdated styles I’ve outgrown. 

Just like a dress that’s too big, I don’t wear thoughts that no longer serve me.

The well-dressed mind knows: not every thought deserves closet space.

Veronica Beard Kinna Tall Boots

After eyeing them for weeks, I finally bought these beautiful Veronica Beard Kinna Boots. And, can I just say, they’re a perfect fit – in my closet and my life.

Here’s why I love them: the suede is impossibly soft, the heel is actually walkable (I tested them on a city sidewalk last week), and they hit at that perfect spot that works with everything from jeans to midi skirts.

Talk about a perfect investment.

The Well-Dressed Mind: Trying On New Thoughts

You wouldn’t wear the same outfit from 20 years ago to your most important meeting. So why are you still wearing thoughts you inherited decades ago?

In this episode, I dive into the concept of a well-dressed mind – where psychology meets style. You’ll discover why comfortable thoughts aren’t always flattering, how to identify what needs to go, and the fitting room question that changes everything.

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