The Questions We Ask

"She knew the power of her mind and so programmed it for success." – Carrie Green.

The questions we ask ourselves can considerably impact our self-image and the outcomes of our desires, hopes, and dreams. 

Most of us are thinking about something most of the time; whether it's work, family, our relationships, ourselves, our projects, our homes, society, politics ... you name it, we're thinking about it and worrying about it. Mulling it over. Considering ...  Asking all the “What if” questions. 

Some of you may even be mindful of the statements you make about yourself, about your situation, about the world around you, and about others, having practiced the art of mindfulness – aware of the impact that your thoughts have on your reality. 

With a deep understanding that our thoughts create our feelings, you've gotten good at minding the positivity that you produce for yourself. 

You know that negative thoughts and hurtful statements can destroy your self-image, sabotage your efforts, and create an energetic vibe that does not serve you. 

But often, we don't take into consideration the questions we ask ourselves. How framing them in one way or another can significantly impact our vibrational level and, therefore, our lives. 

I wonder. 

Are you asking yourself high-quality questions?

 Or are the questions you ask yourself low-quality and therefore detrimental to your path? 

Low-Quality Questions and Their Hurtful Affect

"If constructive thoughts are planted, positive outcomes will be the result. Plant the seeds of failure and failure will follow." – Sidney Madwed

You may be asking yourself, "What is a 'low-quality question, and how can it negatively affect me?" 

Whenever I start to create something new, I can see my brain getting busy, trying to push unhealthy questions at me. Questions like, what if this doesn't work? What if this fails? What if everyone laughs at me?

I've learned how to stop those kinds of low-quality questions in their tracks with years of practice. 

Some other low-quality questions that might pop up for you are questions like:

• Why do these things always happen to me?
• Why can't I ever get it right?
• What if they don't (cooperate, show up, want me, like me, love me, want what I want?)
• What if I can't…
• What if I don't make it?
• What if I can't do this?
• Why don't I ever win?  

What happens when you ask yourself these kinds of questions? 

If you're like me, they make you want to hide from the world, give up, or check out because it all feels so overwhelming.

These kinds of questions destroy self-confidence and sew doubt. 

Ultimately, when you ask these kinds of questions, you end up producing the very thing that you don't want to create.

Let's break down a few low-quality questions and look at why they are low-quality, why they are producing the results they are producing, and how we can switch up the narrative to create more positivity and self-support for our benefit.

We’ll start with a question that makes a broad, self-defining statement:

• Why do these things always happen to me?

The keyword here is "always." 

By asking this question, you're setting yourself up to believe that this sort of thing will ALWAYS happen to you. You're saying to yourself and the Universe that you're just the kind of person who will never get a break from the rotten luck. You're suggesting that you'll never escape from under that cloud of doom that seems to accompany you wherever you go.

I've said it so many times before, and I'll repeat it here: Life is not happening to you. It's happening for you. 

 A set of more positively impactful questions would be: 

• I wonder why this happened? 
• What could I have done differently? 
• What can I learn from this? 
• What soul-gifts are to be found here? 

Here's another one:

• What if they don't (cooperate, show up, want me, like me, love me, want what I want?)

Some more positive ways to frame these would be:

• What will be my plan B if they don't cooperate?
• What kind of beautiful things does the day have in store for me if they don't show up?
• I wonder who the Universe will bring into my life instead?
• Am I willing to compromise? If not, how will I move forward, and how will it be even better?

Asking low-quality questions creates a negative mindset and suggests to your soul that the worse will happen. Instead, reframing your questions opens the door to new possibilities and reinforces a healthy self-image that will serve you by setting you up for success.

Let's look at two more:

• What if I don't make it?
• What if I can't do this?

How about instead asking yourself more high vibe questions like:

• How great will it be when I make it?
• How can I do this?
• What can I do to make this happen? 

What Are Some High-Quality Questions And How Will They Serve Me?  

"You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind." – Darwin P. Kingsley

With a high-quality question, you're going to be offered new insights and solutions. These questions build confidence and dispel self-doubt.

High-quality questions will have your dreams and desires in your best interest. High-quality questions will set the tone for your self-image, tell the Universe what you want, and help you manifest your dreams.

Here are some great examples of high-quality questions: 

• What do I want to happen? 
• What am I excited about? 
• How can I be a woman that shows up when I say I'm going to show up? 
• How can I be a woman that follows through?
• How can I set myself up for success? 
• How can I make myself proud today?

Asking yourself high-quality questions will give you courage and inspire high-quality emotions and high-quality actions. These kinds of high vibrational questions are going to move your life forward and give you new insight. These are the kinds of questions that are going to build your confidence.

The Questions We Ask Determine The Answers We Receive

"Expect great things, and great things will come." – Norman Vincent Peal. 

When we set ourselves up with high-quality questions, we set ourselves up for success and fulfillment. 

The questions we ask ourselves make significant suggestions to our mindset, our self-image, and the Universe about how we expect things to go. 

The same goes for expecting – or asking questions that assume – the negative. 

Author Sidney Madwed says, "Our subconscious minds have no sense of humor, play no jokes, and cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives."

Have you been asking yourself low-quality questions? 

What are high-quality questions you can ask yourself instead?