What 500 Episodes Taught Me (and What’s Next)
Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I’m actually living and thinking about. Today’s confession is a celebration and an honest look back at 12 years of showing up. 500 episodes. I still can’t believe it. My first podcast was published on August 8, […]
You’re Not Tired. You’re Tired of Performing. [Poolside Confessions]
Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I’m actually living and thinking about. Last year, I felt a very particular kind of tiredness. Not physical. Emotional fatigue paired with restlessness, and I couldn’t figure out why. Was it my hormones? The time of year? […]
Anxiety or Self-Trust Issues? [Poolside Confessions]
Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I’m actually living and thinking about. Today’s confession is something I’ve been sitting with for a while. I started thinking about the seasons of my life when anxiety showed up the loudest. Some of those seasons made […]
The Best Aging Advice I Have [Poolside Confessions]
Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I’m actually living and thinking about. Today’s episode is one I’ve been wanting to record for a while. People assume aging well is a formula. Find the right peptides. Count the right macros. Follow the right protocol. […]
The Fear Successful People Don’t Talk About [Poolside Confessions]
Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where we gather around the pool and I confess the things I’ve been thinking, feeling, and experiencing – in hopes of normalizing these conversations and helping you know you’re not alone. Today’s confession is one that almost every successful woman I’ve ever talked to has felt at some […]
Why Having Personal Style is More Important Than Ever
We’re about to live through the most average decade in human history. AI is becoming really, really good at sounding like everyone. And it shows. But here’s the thing that a machine can’t do. It can’t be a woman who knows exactly who she is. Lately, I’m hearing the same thing from women everywhere: “I […]
The Shopping Secret That Changed My Self-Image
For most of my life, I hated shopping. Not because I didn’t care about clothes – but because I had no idea who I was dressing. I was buying what the mannequin wore. What the sales associate pulled with confidence. What the woman in the magazine made look effortless. I’d get home, lay everything out […]
My Top 3 Style Mistakes (and the Self-Image Story Behind Each One)
Style isn’t about clothes. It’s your inner thoughts about yourself made visible – one of the most accurate self-portraits a woman paints. A daily, public answer to the question: Who do you think you are? In this episode, Tonya walks through her three biggest style mistakes and, more importantly, what each one was costing her […]
Put Down the Journal. Put On the Outfit.
You’ve been writing about her for years. You know the way she carries herself. You know the outfits she’d wear, the dinners she’d attend, the way she says her opinion at the table without softening it first. You have written about her so many times you could find her blindfolded. And she is still standing […]
The 30-Day Reset That Changes How You See Yourself
There’s a room in my house that I’ve called my studio for nearly two years. I’ve never once recorded a podcast in it. Two walls painted black, two white. Not a decision. A series of half-starts that never became anything. Every time I walk past it, it whispers: “You’re a woman with beautiful ideas who […]