You know how the world seems to be on a roller coaster lately?

It’s got me thinking about something big – this idea that we get to choose who we are in every single moment.

Here’s the deal: I’ve noticed how easy it is to get sucked into the vortex of collective freakout.

It’s like this invisible force that sneaks up on you. One minute, you’re fine; the next, you’re doom-scrolling and feeling your stomach do somersaults.

That’s when I hit the pause button and ask myself: “Tonya, who do you want to be right now?”

Sounds simple, right? But this little question packs a punch. It snaps me out of whatever funk I’m in and reminds me I’ve got options.

Do I want to be the calm in the storm?

The one cracking jokes when things get heavy?

The one who remains optimistic with pessimism is the flavor of the day?

This isn’t about ignoring what’s going on. It’s about choosing how I show up in the middle of it all.

Is it always easy? No. There are days when the anxiety feels like it’s got me in a headlock. But that’s when I find it most crucial to keep asking myself that question.

So, here’s my challenge: Next time life throws you a curveball (or, you know, the world seems to be going wild), take a second and ask yourself:

“Who do I want to be right now?”

Trust me, it’s pretty powerful stuff.

Remember, you’re in the driver’s seat of your own being. It might seem small, but the ripple effects can be huge – for you and everyone around you.

Until next time, keep choosing your flavor of awesome,

P.S. If you're ready to make this kind of mindful choosing your natural response, join our FREE, 3-day Calm, Cool & Connected training.

We’ll dive into practical strategies for embodying calm in chaos, maintaining your cool under pressure, and fostering meaningful connections that support your chosen way of being.

We get started November 18 – RSVP here.

Defining Decisions

It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.

~ Tony Robbins

While big decisions matter, it’s our small, daily choices that truly define us. These micro-decisions shape our habits, relationships, and character.

This week, notice the decisions you make automatically. What you eat, how you respond to messages, when you take breaks - each is an opportunity to align with your values.

Try this: For one day, make your usual automatic decisions consciously. Notice how this awareness affects your mood, productivity, and interactions.

Remember that it’s not occasional grand gestures but the sum of our daily choices that define us. By bringing mindfulness to these small decisions, we lay the foundation for meaningful change.

Calm, Cool & Connected | 3-Days to Elegant Ease (Free Training)

The constant decisions. The mounting pressures. The endless mental chatter.

In today’s always-on world, finding moments of true peace can feel like chasing an elusive dream.

But what if you could choose to be calm even in chaos?

Welcome to Calm, Cool & Connected – a free virtual training where you’ll discover how to choose serenity, even when life feels turbulent.

Over 3 days, you’ll learn how to:

• Cultivate clarity and ease, no matter what’s happening around you
• Stop feeling triggered and develop conscious confidence
• Connect to your true self and create the future you’ve dreamed of

Starting November 18, through daily 60-minute sessions, you’ll learn my elegant, 3-step framework to craft your own sense of peace without overhauling your entire life.

This isn’t just another online event. It’s an invitation to be present, poised, and purposeful in a world that never stops spinning.

Are you ready to choose a more elegant way of being?

The “Be” Decision

What if the key to personal transformation was hidden in the small moments of your day? In today’s podcast, I reveal how The “Be” Decision can revolutionize your approach to life.

We’ll explore practical techniques for making mindful choices in challenging situations and how to align your decisions with your core values.

Small, intentional choices CAN lead to significant personal growth – tune in to start reshaping your life, one mindful choice at a time.