Look around and you’ll find people who have accomplished more than you and those who have accomplished less. You’ll find those who have more money than you and those with less.

In other words, there will always be people to compare yourself to. Some will make you feel great about where you are in life, and there will be those who make you feel awful.

I suggest that you stop looking around and embrace your own pace.

My life became ridiculously fun when I stopped putting pressure on myself to be anywhere other than where I was.

I never tell myself, “I should be further along.” How cruel would that be?
It’s like telling a little 11-month-old that she should be walking already when she’s learning and growing. Yet, this is how we treat ourselves. There are people in the coaching industry who make far more money than me, and there are those who don’t.  So what? They are both doing amazing in their own right. It’s not a competition. It’s an experience that we each are having.
A woman in the Slim Self-Image group shared how she’s finally losing weight, and it feels amazing because she’s not going to the extremes of her past approaches.  However, she followed it up with, “But, it’s not happening fast enough.” According to whom? What if you decided that it’s happening at the right pace, the right time, and in the right way?
It's time we stop treating our life like a race because the race will be over soon enough. So, what if we embraced our own beautiful pace, enjoying our journey?
That’s what I’ll be over here doing. Care to join me? By the way, you’re doing amazing! And it’s all unfolding at the perfect pace.  Aahhhh…such a better thought, isn’t it? Enjoying the journey,

Welcoming Your Unique Pace

“There is no hurry.” It’s a mantra Tonya shares time and again. However, it can be challenging to embrace the idea of slowing down along the way when it comes to achieving your goals. This can be amplified by the belief that “over there,” the place where you’ve achieved your goals, will be better. It’s important to remember that true accomplishment doesn’t come solely from reaching your goals; it also lies in who you become along the way. Everyone has a different path and pace as they evolve into the next version of themselves. And, that’s okay. Your journey is distinct to you. When you find yourself stuck in the hurry-up mentality, ask yourself,

“How is my unique pace benefiting me?”

Take note of – and celebrate – all the ways your timeline is working in your favor. 

Finding the Perfect Fit with Kate Chadbourne

I'm very inspired by the idea of “The Thought Store." And on a grumpy, anxious day recently, I wrote this little piece in my journal that changed my whole day:

I closed my eyes and entered The Thought Store. 

I carried my needless anxiety - a black garment with scratchy lace - and marched up to the clerk. 

"I'd like to return this," I said.

"Of course," he answered warmly. "I'll just hang it up," and he moved toward a rack of tortured-looking, funeral clothes, "and you can select something that suits you better."

I looked around, feeling that excitement and expansiveness that comes with perfect freedom to choose what I really wanted, and my eyes fell on a cream-colored floor-length gown. It fairly glowed.

"Fairy Queen clothes," I sighed with pleasure, reaching for it. "Love, confidence, pleasure, magic."

No sooner had I touched it than I felt utterly transformed - delighted and suffused with love and enchantment. I was wearing it and it felt like it was made for me. A perfect fit.

And, with a word of thanks and a radiant smile, I sailed out the door into a very different day than the one I'd dressed for before remembering that The Thought Store is always open, and best of all: everything is FREE.

Note: If you want to learn more about the concept of The Thought Store, you can listen to podcast #239.

Celebrating Your Extraordinary Holidays

How is your holiday season feeling so far? 

If the extra commitments and the weight of everyone’s expectations are getting in the way of your enjoyment, I invite you to join me for Your Extraordinary Holidays.

It’s a party like no other.

I’ll teach you how a well-crafted plan and an intentional mindset can help you to gracefully navigate the holidays and bask in the ease and joy you desire.

Join me for Your Extraordinary Holidays and unlock the keys to a magical holiday season.

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Slow Growth

In a world hyper-focused on achievement, it’s easy to be seduced by the allure of quick results and overnight success. In this podcast episode, Tonya dives into the underlying mindset fueling the pursuit of instant gratification and explains why slow growth is the key to creating sustainable success.
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