I often say, “You don’t get what you want; you get what you expect.”

Your expectations are your standards or what you consider to be typical or average for you.

So, let me ask you, “What are your self-love standards?” In other words, what do you consider normal in how you treat yourself?

It’s time to raise your self-love standards.

With love,

Upgrading Your Standards

Upgrading your standards begins with a thoughtful evaluation of your beliefs, behaviors, and expectations. Only when you know your starting point can you redefine what you consider acceptable and where upgrades are needed.

Start by listing and reflecting on your current standards – from relationships to work to well-being. Do they align with your values and aspirations?

If you don’t know your core values, think about what matters most to you in life. This helps ensure your standards support your fundamental beliefs.

With this clarity, challenge yourself to set higher expectations. What improvements can you make? Aim for standards that inspire growth and fulfillment.

Finally, setting healthy boundaries — think your red velvet rope — and taking consistent action are essential to ensure your upgraded standards become nonnegotiables.

Remember, challenges and setbacks will happen. View them as valuable lessons that allow you to adapt, learn, and continuously refine your standards.

Upgrading your standards isn’t just a goal; it's an ongoing process for creating a life that aligns with your most authentic self.

My Self-Love Plan

with Fanna Vukelich

The Self-Love Plan I created was aspirational for me. Thinking through and listing these practices helped me be more mindful by reframing some "mundane" practices as self-love rituals.

For example, showering was already part of my daily routine, but now I view it as self-care, not just something to "get through" for what's next.

Over time, what started as a beauty plan has evolved to include more health-related practices. I also eliminated some things I originally included (bye Botox… for now).

It’s a process that’s always evolving!

Osea Body Butter & Oil

Embracing my Word of the Year, "Royal," involves prioritizing self-care, particularly for my skin. Indulging in the Osea Body Butter & Oil duo is a key aspect of my skin-loving regimen.

Enriched with a nourishing blend of seaweed and antioxidants, this duo provides unparalleled hydration, making my skin feel positively regal. It's a sublime way I’m honoring and caring for my body.